let go ....the emotional baggage

Posted by Tandarin Nike Thursday, April 1, 2010 9:05 AM
How often I have said to myself “let it go Manju” when I was agitated or upset about something. I’ve also said “let go” to others when they were holding on to a negative thought.

How does one “let go?”

We are attached to our emotional stuff and don’t always know how to release the emotions and free ourselves.

I once shared with a group of my friends an image of getting out of bed and picking up my suitcase before going about my day. I don’t actually pick up a physical suitcase, but rather a suitcase filled with memories from the past, unfinished work, and negative thoughts that seem to come with me wherever I go.

This suitcase is bland on the outside because it doesn’t want me to know I’m being very foolish by picking it up each day.

I’ve reached the age where wisdom should be paying me back for my years on this earth. Sometimes it does…sometimes I’m actually wise. My wisdom now is in the form of awareness. It has taken me a bit of time to realize that I’m now dragging this suitcase. Now that I’m aware how I’m dragging this suitcase around with me, latched on to the back of my pants, slowing me down, and taking a chunk of wellness and joy out of my life each day, what am I’m going to do about it?

It’s like going through your physical closets, throwing out or giving away ‘stuff’ that you have never and will never use. What about my clothes closet? My closet houses a department store filled with different sizes… hoping for the day when I can make my way towards the back of the closet…. to the skinny clothes section.

Well that’s also part of my emotional suitcase…those skinny clothes.

I’ve been thinking about this emotional suitcase a lot the last few months and it’s taken me some time to venture forth and check to see what is inside of it. I opened it last night when a recurring situation happened and I stopped long enough to ask myself how I could see the situation differently.

How many times have I expected the other person to be different…to see what I see? I was in a situation where the other person was telling me how much they were there for me and I was locked in my past memories of all the ‘hurts’ and ‘struggles’ they have caused me. This stuff is in my suitcase.

I couldn’t believe they weren’t aware of their outrageous behaviors, their self-centeredness, and their manipulations. I didn’t say anything to the other person but I sure thought about it. On the outside, I was calm, clear and didn’t engage the person in a conversation of emotional “he said, she said.”

As I was driving, I kept saying “I can’t believe he doesn’t know what he has done to me.” Somewhere in the drive home, I saw how I was holding on to the past.

It was hurting the other person by my insistence to remember, but it was hurting me more because my spirit was carrying such a heavy load. I just asked “how can I see this differently?”

That question allowed me to let go of my need to justify or prove my decisions based on someone else’s behavior. It was ok for them to see it anyway they wanted because it didn’t matter anymore. What felt right to me was to ‘let it go.”

At that moment, I decided what was best for me…because it was best for me.

We all become attached to a belief, a memory or a feeling insisting they are facts…they are reality. They are our reality because our thoughts create what we see. They may not be someone else’s reality. I believe it was in the Course of Miracles that I read “perception is a choice…not a fact.”

In last night’s situation I cleared out a lot of ‘junk’ in my emotional suitcase.

What’s in your emotional suitcase?

Check it out and try to shed off excess junk within….

It feels really great ….. Ask me.

6 Response to "let go ....the emotional baggage"

  1. shivani Says:

    You are so right in saying that and let's not wait for the other person to realise cause i've waited long enough too in vain...the best as you say is "shed off excess junk within" and that's going to be the mantra...for happiness and with it everything.But hey don't dwell too much on skinny clothes...shed off that junk too...just take care that you stay healthy minus those problems that usually take a toll on all those who led a sedentary life.Cheers :)

  2. Tandarin Nike Says:

    Absolutely true. Will shed all my skinny clothes too. Pronto!! Thanks Shivani. Here's wishing you too less e-baggage this year... CHEERS!!!!!

  3. Thought(s) of an old man Says:

    Simply excellent!... gives an idea of how much courage it takes to bare in public!

  4. Tandarin Nike Says:

    Thank you Bhavaji.....Keep visiting and leaving your comments. It helps.

  5. Ankush Naik Says:

    Great post Popz.

  6. Tandarin Nike Says:

    Thank you Ankushi....

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