Let’s give Love a chance!

Posted by Tandarin Nike Wednesday, March 17, 2010 11:21 PM
Every passing year my conception or my definition about love keeps on changing with some phrase added or removed. But one thing that has remained the same is my notion that “To be in love and to be loved are the two best feelings on Earth”.

Love, as many say is a gift, virtue and a blessing, which ought to be kept so close to our hearts. It gives a new definition to our life. Only a person who is not in love will know how luckier the guy who in love is, because he understands love is not a gift everyone can get so easily.

But what about these lucky ones?

Do they really understand the beauty and essence of love?? Do they understand that they are really lucky? From the world I have seen and the persons with whom I have acquainted I have just heard love lament, “Please give me a chance”.

On one side, I see people not accepting the true love they get and they keep on waiting for the perfect match without knowing love is only as perfect as we make it.

On the other side I see, lovers break up due to ego clashes and possessiveness. I don’t understand why people can’t give up their pride and ego just to the people whom they love a lot.

Be it any relation, the wound created by egocentric problems takes lot of time to heal. The worst case is that you may lose the person for a lifetime. At times misunderstandings may ruin a perfect love.

However remember, it is the things in common that makes a relationship enjoyable, but it is the differences that make them interesting ;-).

I was in for a shock when one of my friends said love is kind of business, where you give and take the same. I’m afraid if this is the mentality then god help you.

Do they just see love as a kind of business or as an important element for social status or just to boast to people that they too can love without even knowing what love demands??

Many feel a perfect love is accomplished just with a bike ride, a movie, a walk on the beach during sunset, a late evening dinner. Many forget true love requires something more than all this.

It requires care, patience, understanding, and all the more trust and loyalty. Well I still feel love is monumental and universal because of the fact love defies all reasons and gives you a blind confidence to add to your strengths!

Love is always bestowed as a gift. Freely, willingly and without any expectations.

We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.

Love is sometimes denied, sometimes lost, sometimes unrecognized, but in the end, always found with no regrets, forever valued and treasured.

Inside every heart there is a longing to be understood by someone who really cares, one who trusts and loves you.

Now it’s high time to introspect!

You look inside your heart, I'll look into mine!

Let’s give Love a chance!

5 Response to "Let’s give Love a chance!"

  1. Thought(s) of an old man Says:

    Wow!...Here is a man who talks so lovingly about LOVE!! I wish I know when I am in love!!!

  2. shivani Says:

    Quite elusive this LOVE that is needed by all.Sry to say i have no belief in any other love except the one that a mother has for her child...unconditional and dil se.Rest is all bakwaas.Shayad kabhi kissi ne kissi se kiya hoga but these are in stories to be read before u even embark on the journey to convince ur sagging self that such a thing called love really exists.yeah longing for it is ok because it's like "always wanting what is not".God points though but a wishful thinking i say.

  3. Tandarin Nike Says:

    Thanks Bhavaji and Shivani for your thought provoking comments....

    Love!!!! To me its an unconscious handshake between too souls who agree there is more to this world than work, play, and food. It is an exchange of mutual projections that when executed well, is better than any award winning movie.

    Love may be a delusion but it is one of the best one we have. Seriously speaking, it's all we have.

    The selfless acts of love that happen every day are real, observable, and can bring us to our knees in awe of the god-like powers within humans. We all have experienced it... for sure. Be it mother loving her child or any other combo of love.

    Now I will really go out on a limb and say that Love (look, I’m using a cap now!) can feel like a spiritual experience. All we can hope for is that each new love relationship will bring us different challenges. We hope that as we grow we will not become trapped in familiar, unhealthy patterns that get us stuck. Delusion or not, love is something we should all sign up for.

    It’s an antidote to fear, horrific TV news, sickness, and other suffering. Love is the answer.

    And when life gets us down, when we feel, shame, loneliness, victimized, pressured, indecisive, or angry, love is the only choice that will work every single time. It won’t always have an instant result and it won’t always come back directly to us with the precision of a ping pong ball, but a loving act will change our biology and change the world.

    Don’t fear love, nor waste it thoughtlessly. It is the biggest gift you will ever receive.

    Ya!!!!! listening Bhavaji & Shivani???

  4. Thought(s) of an old man Says:

    Sure, Manju, I am listening...keenly....very ardently....

    Fear, sickness, horror, suffering, anger and above all conciet, pride, virtue, and the likes....are they all not layers over layers on what is deeply imbedded in me?, what basically constitutes me? I wonder!... if these emotional trash is not forcing me to delude!...Can I really explain or define love other than a great variety of illusions I have of love? "I am LOVE" even if that is the truth, does it not become an illusion when I put it in words? That is to say, I am separating the inseparable from me? The same thing happens when I say "I love you"! Love just happens without "ME" and "YOU", not even between us, IT IS US!, is that not so?

  5. Tandarin Nike Says:

    Its 'US' for sure. Love is also an illusion because people do fall out of it as much as fall in it. For me its the only delusion that I know, because at 20 love was something I dont believe in at all at my present age of 50.

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